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Sunday Musings - July 31, 2022

7/31/2022

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Sunday Musings - July 31, 2022
Ethics vs morals
Many of us may find ourselves becoming confused over the fact that many individuals seem to be able to have two sets of ethical or moral rules which allow them to alternately behave in ways which seems contradictory.  They may, for example, claim to be members of a particular religious faith and, yet seemingly comfortable supporting behavior which is contradictory to the tenants of their religious faith.  
Are some of comfortable separating the moral rules which guide us in our personal life from the ethical rules we use to make business or political decisions? Are we confusing ethical principles or rules with core moral beliefs?
The terms ethics and moral are frequently used interchangeably but dictionary.com, as well as many other such resources, clearly distinguishes between the two.  Dictionary.com posits that “moral refers mainly to guiding principles and ethics refers to specific rules and actions or behavior. 
A moral precept is an idea or opinion that’s driven by a desire to be good. An ethical code is a set of rules that defines allowable actions or correct behavior.”
I consider the term moral  to refer to behavior I believe from my spiritual perspective is right or wrong.  For example, I believe it is wrong for me to judge another person, to deliberately hurt another person, or to treat one person or group as superior to another.  For me the term ethics refers to rules such as those dictated by organizations such as professional organizations to which I belong. These rules may or may not coincide with my moral beliefs. If there is a conflict my moral code takes precedence.   
Some of us may consider ourselves to be devout members of a religious body but feel compelled to obey the principles or rules of the organization to which we also owe allegiance.  For example, the ethical rules of the political organization to which we owe allegiance may require that the gaining or maintenance of power be the primary goal. This principle or rule may dictate the organization enact laws or influence behavior which is inconsistent with the moral values of some or most of its members. 
For some people who consider their behavior to be based in the basic teachings of a religious leader such as Jesus, Mohammed or even the Buddha, certain behavior is so basically immoral that it is imperative that they gain power by any means necessary to ensure their moral beliefs are the law of the land/country/body politic.  Thus, for examples, some Christian might believe that homosexuality, bisexuality, transsexuality, abortion, “the browning of the population”, violation of the property “rights” of others and some other behavior is so wrong in hierarchy of morals that it is ethical to prevent such behavior by any means necessary. Any means necessary can include and has included killing, torture, and imprisonment.
In a recent book The Paradox of Democracy the authors Sean Elling and Zac Gerhberg, suggest that power is the guiding ethical principle for a certain segment of the body politic (my interpretation).  Confusing morality and ethics is not a new phenomenon. One might recall, for example, during the reign of the Third Reich a licensed physician signed the death certificate of every person who’s was murdered in the gas chambers.   Physicians who had  taken the Hippocratic Oath said that the patient had become the state and gassing “undesirable or sick members of the body politic” was no different than amputating a limb of an individual.  Throughout history one finds  the “creative” use of language to justify what would otherwise be immoral behavior.   Outright lies or the accusation of fake news is one of our modern ways of altering reality so that we can convince ourselves that we are being morally consistent, 
It is important to understand how easy it is for us humans to creatively confuse morality and ethics.  If we do not understand this, we will continue to self-righteously attack “the others” instead of correctly diagnosing and addressing the issues.  All of us are familiar with playing the shell game with morals and ethics.   We need to quit pretending as if we do not understand this game and explore how all of us manage to convince ourselves our small moral compromises” disguised as ethics do not matter until, of course, they do matter.
 
Written July 31, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
 


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Sunday Musings - July 24, 2022

7/24/2022

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​Sunday Musings – July 24, 2022
Solving the teacher shortage
 
Many states in these United States are experiencing a teacher shortage.  There is certainly a myriad of reasons for such shortages.  Many legislators and bureaucrats seem to think the primary reason is the relatively low pay, especially when one compares that pay to that of the median income of what it takes to maintain a relatively decent standard of living with a minimum of frills.  Yet most know that the primary reasons most men and women enter the teaching professional is because of their love of teaching; of sharing the excitement of learning.
 
Pay is a concern of teachers, and many will direct their unions to continue to fight for salaries and benefits which allow teachers to take care of themselves and their families.  They will also direct their unions and legislators to ensure that public school are funded well enough that it is not assumed that teachers will spend their own limited resources to purchase needed supplies for their students.
 
As important as these concerns are they are not the primary concerns of most teachers with whom I talk.  The primary concerns of most teachers with whom I talk are,
 
  • Respect:  Trust the teachers to be the well-educated, skilled, caring individuals they are. Allow them to challenge the students while respecting individual struggles.  Do not  pass laws or rules stating that the goal is to teach only those facts which do not run the risk of making students uncomfortable.   Their job is to teach: to challenge the students to stretch their thinking and knowledge base. That is often uncomfortable.
  • Funding.  Respect that public schools should be the top schools for all the students regardless of economic background or special needs.  Quit diverting public school money to private schools.  Also, do not base funding on property taxes or other means which is going to guarantee that schools are unequally funded.
  • Areas of responsibility:  Ensure that there are school counselors who have the time to counsel on emotional needs of the students and who do not have to spend all their time with testing or vocational counseling.
  • Inclusivity: Do not attempt to put teachers in the position of pretending that it is acceptable to discriminate against children actively or passively because of sexual orientation, gender identify, race or other identities or constructs.
  • Sexual activity.    Children of all ages are sexual.   Certainly, post pubescent children are more hormonal but children at a very early   are acutely aware of whether they are identified as the wrong gender or attracted to same sex - opposite sex or both.  Children get pregnant.  Sadly, some are raped, often by a family member.  Passing laws which restrict access to abortion and other services affects the teacher’s ability to teach.
  • Parenting.   Just because individuals manage to successfully introduce a sperm and an egg does not make them good parents.   They may or may not know what is best for the child.  Often the teacher and other school staff are the best equipped to make decisions for children, not the sperm or egg donor.
  • Religion:  Public school should be open to all children regardless of their religious background, beliefs or lack thereof. Prayers representing one religious tradition have no place in public school.  Do not force teachers to pretend otherwise; to pretend as if all United States citizens are or should be Christian. It is fine if a teacher is Christian but he or she cannot assume that they should force their tradition or beliefs on students or other teachers.
  • Flexibility:  Trust teachers to adjust teaching plans to meet the needs of the students while challenging them to grow. Insisting that all lesson plans be pre-approved, published and available for the critique of school board members and parents is not respectful of the teaches or students. If a lesson plan is not giving the students what they need to learn, then the teacher must be allowed to adjust the plan without fear of being reprimanded or even disciplined.
 
 
Written July 24, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
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The fist bump

7/20/2022

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The fist bump?
 
If one googles “the fist bump” one finds  a version of the following:
 
“A fist bump (also known as a bro fist or power five) is a gesture similar in meaning to a handshake or high five. A fist bump can also be a symbol of giving respect or approval, as well as companionship between two people.” (Google without reference to specific source.)
 
I could be wrong, but shortly after the arrival of the covid pandemic, the fist bump or an elbow bump seemed to often replace the handshake.  Whether or not this is true and whether or not it was safer in terms of the spread of covid is debatable.
 
The fist bump was recently in the news following it’s sharing between President Joseph Biden of the United States and Saudi Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman.  The political and moral nature of the meeting between the two men was already being called into question because of reports the Crown Prince approved the 2018 assassination of Washington Journalist Jamal Khashoggi.
 
I understand that career diplomats and those whose careers are concerned with international relationships can sharply disagree with foreign policy decisions by world leaders such as President Biden.  I often question the decisions and words of such leaders.
 I do not, however,  agree with or understand the historical arrogance and lack of humility by many in the United States towards world leaders who chose to use violence including assassinations and even “regime change” as an approach to gaining power and/or attempting to stop actions with which a world power may disagree.    Personally. I think the often-violent behavior of the representative of the United States in many countries of the Americas, Iraq, Korea, Afghanistan and many other places and the often-violent interference in the government of another countries by other so-called world leaders is not only immoral but long term counterproductive. The failure to accept responsibly for the connection between the current need of many to flee some  countries and past interference in those countries prevents more progress in nations working together to create a more just world.   The killing of journalists is no exception to this immoral and counterproductive behavior.  Neither are the killings and assassinations of citizens of other Nations the United States government has often covertly approved and carried out.
For some so-called leaders in the United States now to critique a meeting between President Biden and the Saudi Prince as “shameful” as if we are innocent of similar behavior, is the sort of posturing which is guaranteed to keep the hypocrisy of the United States the reason for so little respect. (It must be opinioned that fear is not the same as respect.) 
Removing the log from our own eye before pointing out the spec in the eye of our brother/sister may be and is uncomfortable.  Although it is politically incorrect in some circles in the United States to say or do anything which might make some uncomfortable, it seems to me that the road to progress is paved with the uncomfortable gravel of truth.   One might find roughen feet is not life threatening but the foundation of the humility which leads to “walking each other home (Ram Dass).  Could the fist bump  be a tiny step in that direction?
Written July 20, 2022
Jimmy Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
 
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Sunday Musings - July 17, 2022

7/17/2022

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Sunday Musings – July 17, 2022
One community
 
Professional organizations and legislators at all levels of the body politic have fallen into trap of believing that humans are robots who need to be explicitly told what to do and not to do at every step of their professional and community journey.   The result is that individuals in all part of their life often operate from a position of fear and respond by either ignoring all the rules or acting out.  An essential part of his system are professional boards, attorneys, and overzealous law enforcement individuals who are determined to rid the professions and/or community of these rule/law breaking individuals.    To be fair, there are a few places in the world where the goal is restorative justice.  There are also those boards whose only concern is helping the individual do whatever they need to do to do whatever they need to do to return to being the professional they want and need to be.  Too often, however, the relationship between the staff of the organization and the offending professional is an adversarial one. 
 
The point is that most of us are not at our best because there are a thousand rules telling us what to do and not to do.  Most of us are at our best when we take care of our emotional, spiritual. physical and nutritional health. Most of us are at our best when we know it is safe ask for help. 
 
The bottom line is that all ethical guidelines/laws/rules can be summarize as:
 
         Practice the golden rule - treat others as you want to be treated.
         Practice holistic health care.
         Make it safe to ask for help.
         Make it safe to be honest with self and others.
 
Fear is not a good motivator for ethical/moral behavior.  Open carry guns are a symptom of the fear with which many people live.   I do not personally believe that violence or the constant threat of violence is a helpful or necessary for us humans to respect and take care of each other.  I am personally sorry that many seem to interpret the second amendment of the United States Constitution as the right to treat our neighbors as potential enemies.  We may indeed have some unhealthy neighbors, but the solution is to make it safe and easy to ask for help or to help individuals and families get help.  We may indeed have some neighbors who justifiably believe as if their needs and concerns are not important.  We need to do all we can to ensure that all feel as if everything is being done to allow everyone to take good care of themselves and their families.  It is not, for example, helpful to advocate closing down coal mines without addressing the need for coal miners to continue to be paid a wage which allows him or her to take good care of themselves and their family.  Telling a coal miner that one is going to shut down the coal mine and offering them a minimum wage job is not kind, moral or helpful. It is not going to result in the outed coal miner feeling as if he or she is a neighbor and friend.  It may result in feeling as if one is living in enemy territory   Once one believes the person next door is an enemy then it is easy for some to believe that this is the enemy to who, the second amendment protects one from and against whom one must protect oneself with aa lethal weapon.
 
I am in favor of a community without guns or other lethal weapons; a community in which everyone is vaccinated; a community in which everyone wears a mask in public when there is a resurge of variants of Covid or other communicable diseases; a community where it is safe to keep one’s door unlocked because no one has an unequal share of needed resources; a community in which quality health care is available to all; a community where people feel and act as if we are one community; one family.  We are not going to achieve such a community by enacting many laws which do not address the core issues of inequality.  We are not going to creates such a community by making enemies out of each other and enacting new laws to punish our enemies.    I believe such a community is possible.   We will still have mental illness, but we will treat those with mental illness as sick and not as criminals who need to be punished.
 
Just this morning I read of a parent being accused of child abuse because their 4-year wandered off while she was tending to the two-year-old.  She needs a helping hand and not to be treated as a child abuser. 
 
We need each other’s help and not to be judged and punished.  We need community does not wall and guns and hate.
 
 
Written July 17, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
 
 
 
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Who is the patient/client?

7/13/2022

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Who is the patient/client?
 
One of the most misunderstood and misused laws in the field of heath care in the United States is the Health Insurance and Portability Act of 1996  (HIPPA) which was passed in August of 1996 by the 104th congress.  This law had three rules:
 
         The Privacy Rule
         The Security Rule
         The Breach Notification Rule
 
The law instructed the United States Department of Health and Human Services to create the standards for the law.  Anyone can go online and obtain a copy of these standards.
 
Prior to this law health information was often shared by health care officials  through careless handing, ignorance of how it might be misused and direct discrimination.   An employer, spouse or other person might obtain health information to use to discriminate or even abuse someone.  If a heath care professional had a particular bias or prejudice that might be used to limit or even refuse care.  For example, early in the AIDS epidemic some doctors I knew would write HOMOSEXUAL on the patient’s chart which could easily adversely affect the quality of care.  A spouse might obtain information to abuse their spouse.   An adult child’s medical information might be used to attempt to abuse or control the child.  Employers might obtain information about medication or medical care to mistreat an employee or potential employee.   The records might have been easily obtainable to be misused by an employer.  There are numerous examples of community and individual prejudicial , careless or insensitive treatment of patient/client medical information.   Sadly, the response was to pass a law which might have protected some patients/clients but also invited a different level of mistreatment.   Now, even if patently appropriate and beneficial to the patient/client, the heath care provider can and often does refuse to even acknowledge the person is a client or patient.   For example, parents of a seriously mentally ill adult child can be refused information about their son or daughter unless there is an official legal document authorizing them access to the person condition. Until the marriage equality became law (which may be in danger of being repealed) the spouse of a same sex couple could not be involved in decisions or even have access  their spouse/partner.  In short, fear and the fact that health care providers are often very busy  could lead to use of the HIPPA standards to avoid quality and compassionate care based on the needs of the individual and the family.   
 
HIPPA also muddied the rights of a child who has not attained the age of legal consent.  In an article in the American Medical Association Journal of Ethics, August, 2003 Sara Taub Me in an article entitled “Learning to Decide:  Involving Children in their Health Care Decisions, Ms. Taub reminds her colleagues that the United Nations in its Convention on the Rights of the church, “recognizes the right of every child to self-determination, dignity, respect, noninterference, and the right to make informed decisions…They also serve to acknowledge the physician’s primary obligation is to the child, whose preference and insights are helpful to guide decisions.”
 
One of most important issues which all of us health care providers must address when we are dealing with individuals and families. (Legal or otherwise) is : “Who is the patient?” In the case of family issues is it the family, the one who initiated treatment, only the parents or the legal guardian or legal primary custodian.  What is the involvement or rights of the child? Should the opinions and desires of even young children be considered? If a  child is forced into treatment because a professional assessment determined that the child himself or herself and not the parents or legal guardians is struggling to the extent that direct professional help can be beneficial to the child who is the client? If one set of grandparents have temporary legal custody should the other grandparent(s) be involved.   What if temporary custody was awarded to one set of grandparents while the other grandparent(s) is dealing with the aftermath of a family trauma? What if the other grandparent(s) was the one most involved with the minor child prior to the trauma?  Are the issues of who the client is determined by the law, common sense, history or other factors?  How does the health care provider determined what is best for the child assuming, as I have mentioned, that the temporary guardians are the grandparent(s) who were providing temporary care following the trauma?
 
To be sure there are those very young children who are struggling and who may benefit from  individual help but, for the most part, the role of the health care provider is to teach the parenting adults how to help the child.   One must not assume that the child needs professional counseling just because there has been a serious trauma; even on as serious as possibly witnessing the violent death of their parent(s).   Children do sadly witness such events every day.  Millions of children in a country where war is raging may witness such events.  Those events will leave scares for adults and children who might or not need some professional guidance.
 
I have seen children for extended evaluation when parent/guardians are reporting serious academic issue or behavioral issues.  For example, one child I saw with his custodial parent had a history of continually setting fires in various places in the house.  Nothing the custodial parent did reduced the behavior.  Another child might present with need of a program for Autistic children.  Another might be reacting to neglect by his parent(s). If at all possible , the goal is to keep the child with parents and to not place them in an institution or make them “the sick member” of the family.  Often, the child’s behavior is a symptom of family issues which are not being addressed.   As a child ages he or she might need some individual care.  One must listen carefully when assessing the family. The more information one can gather from all family members, including the child, the better the chances of an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment.     
 
The health care provider must provide a safe space for the child to reveal what he or she is thinking/feeling.  This may require some individual time with the child without making the child the identified patient which may be different than considering them the primary client.
 
If one is doing a court ordered assessment is the client the court or the individual/family?   If one is hired by an employer to assess the mental health of an employee, who is the patient/client? 
 
I am not suggesting these are always comfortable or easily answered issues, but I believe it is essential for the health care provider to do one’s best to determine who the client is.  As always, a combination of common sense, empathy, active listening skills, and creativity need to be employed.   Although the health care provider must be aware of any legal risks that should not be the only or even necessarily the primary concern.
 
Written July 13, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
 
 
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Sunday Musings - July 10, 2022

7/10/2022

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Sunday Musings - July 10, 2022
 
I often meditate about what attributes a dynamic leader might possess or need for these interesting and often troubled times.  I thought it might be helpful to think of synonyms for the word lead.  Merriam Webster suggests “conduct, direct, guide, marshal (also Marshall), pilot, route, show, steer, usher.”  One might also think of such terms or words as initiate, find a solution, or develop a plan.  Merriam Webster suggest antonyms for lead including: “undermine, unsettle, sabotage, subvert, corrupt, and follow”. 
 
For some,  the word subservient comes to mind.  Many think of subservient as the opposite of lead.  According to Collins Dictionary the word originally meant usefulness from the Latin root word subservientem “ to assist or lend support.”
 
In a well-functioning team, whether that be a romantic partnership, a team for farming or building, or a response to a violent domestic or community event, it is imperative someone initiate the lead by calling a meeting of interested parties to formulate a response plan.  This does not usually mean a leader dictates a plan he or she just formulated.  Sadly, that approach may be mistaken for leadership.
 
In the day-to-day life of a family or any business organization most tasks are routinely assumed by the best trained person or the one who is handiest.  An approach to new tasks or situations will normally be initially addressed by who is most skilled and available or by a pre-trained person or team. 
 
In some religious or cultural communities leadership of the  family or larger group is assigned based on gender.   In the United States initially voting and, thus, political leadership was assigned solely to Caucasian, male, landowners.  It was not until the 19th amendment to the constitution was ratified in August of 1920 that adult females were granted the right to vote.   Voting for what we now refer to as African American or Native Americans and  those who were 18 years or older also did not come quickly or easily.  In recent years  there is new state legislation many belief is intended to again restrict voting rights and thus access to power/leadership positions.
 
The above directly relates to the historic argument and attempt to limit leadership in families and the body politic to Caucasian males.  Some would trace this concept of leadership in the United States to the influence of mostly males labeled leaders of the Christian Church.  In some other countries the beliefs perpetuated by the leaders of other religious groups also limit leadership role to adult males of certain ethnic origins and often financial class or status.
 
In many Christian churches, including many of the more theologically conservative mega churches in the Midwest of the United States, there is a renewed attempt to draw adult males into the daily mission of the church; to clarify and strengthen their role in the church and the family.  Sadly, the central message may be the adult male is responsible for the overall direction, vision and leadership of the family and the church.  It is not difficult to find some old and New Testament passages which seem to validate this belief.   Depending, however, on one’s translation and interpretation of certain terms, the historical context and other factors many Christian churches have come to believe and teach that leadership of the family, the church and the body politic is meant to be shared irrespective of gender, status, or other factors.  There  is no scientific evidence which suggests that leadership should be based on gender, ethnic origin, financial status or any other social constructs.  There is a lot of evidence that many of us humans have very specific, innate abilities which makes us more qualified to perform certain tasks.
 
For a significant group of males, the reexamination of leadership roles has resulted in a crisis of identify.  Many of us males learned to equate identity with gender roles.   The same is true for some women.  The existential question becomes”. “Who are we if we are not our roles?”   If we men are not the recognized head of the family; the one responsible for the spiritual and financial health of the family and the body politic then we are forced to redefine our spiritual purpose.
 
Who are we males if not our gender roles?  We are males who are confident enough in our basic worth/sacredness to share the leadership of the family, community, nation, or business ; financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually.  We do not need to prove our worth by being in charge although we stand ready to take charge when needed and appropriate.  Females also do not need to prove their worth by being in charge.  Whether males, females, non -binary, heterosexual or one who identifies as GLBT + we are all at our best when we practice both strength and humility; when we strive to discover and sharpen our particular skills; when we engage with the same and opposite gender to discover our spiritual purpose for today; when we attempt to discern what the god of our understanding wants or requires of us today.
 
Written July 10, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Pro-life or pro political and/or religious agenda

7/7/2022

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Pro-life or pro political and/or religious agenda
 
Recently, I was at  a local art museum.  As is often true of museums gift stores, it had an amazing selection of toys for children. Many of them are educational and many encourage children and some of we childlike adults to explore our creative talents.  Given time, energy, money, and other resources there is no limit to the opportunities one can make available to one’s own children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or children of friends.  If one visits such museums or even the creative playground which my current home city provides at The Gathering Place, one might decide if one can survive the daily violence the United States can be an amazing place to raise children. Indeed, it is for some children. Yet  many families who can today provide necessities for their children are only, at most, a few paychecks away from being homeless.
 
Often, I hear some politicians suggest that private non-profits who have to compete with other non-profits to raise needed funds should be responsible for helping anyone in need,  The clear assumption is that children belong to a nuclear family (often a single parent) and it is their responsibility to search for or even beg for help from some of the amazing non-profits who on any given day may or may not have much help to provide.  If it is food, one needs and one has managed to qualify for some government food assistance, one will find that unless the nonprofit has access to generous local farmers or is connected with an organization which, in season, which has a community garden, mainly nonorganic food which has tons of sugar, carbohydrates, preservative and other unhealthy ingredients is available.  The resulting health issues may, depending on where one lives and what heath care is available through the state medical cards, get attended by a health care professional who may or may not be “blind” to how much he or she is getting reimbursed and may or may not be free of any prejudices towards those who have a medial card.
 
These and related issues are in the forefront of the concerns of many thoughtful people who may be basically pro-life but cognizant of the fact that often - not always - those most in favor of anti-abortion laws are those who are less than passionate about the need to value the life not only of the fetus but of all persons from the moment of conception to their being laid to rest at the end of their life journey.
 
In the United States, the minimal livable wage for a family of four, depending nowhere one lives, can be as high as $112,000.00.  This amount does not allow for extravagant purchases. (I did not locate post inflation figures for July 2022.)  I did find reports which claims that 34% of families in the United States may earn at least 100,000.00.  Most reports indicate a median income of $67,000.00 which, as we know, means some are above and some are below this amount.   Even if a family is at the $100,000.00 level most are not going to have enough savings to allow them to survive long if because of illness or other reasons they are suddenly unemployed.
 
How many stay at home mothers are paid an annual salary of $100,000.00 for childcare and home management.   Assuming their partner or spouse is making at least $100,000.00 some might be living decently but, if anything happens to their partner, except in rare instances, they cannot collect more than social security survivor’s benefits for the underage children.  A few employers cover childcare; a few parents may receive the benefits of a substantial life insurance policy which allow them to continue to care for their children.
 
How many teachers make at least $100,000.00 a year?  Social workers?  Mental Health counselors?    Amazon’s warehouse workers? Fast food workers? Barista’s?
 
 
The bottom line is that those who say sacred life begins at the moment of conception need to “walk the talk” or stop pretending they are interested in human life rather than a political or religious agenda. To be fair there are those who do walk the talk; who are passionate about human life from the moment of conception to the last breath someone takes; who support government programs which ensure a decent wage to cover all levels of physical, nutritional, and medical care no matter what their country of citizenship or origin.  Let’s do remember that government programs are simply a way to share common resources.
 
I do not believe I am proposing any significant increase in our national budget. I am suggesting that we, as a nation, spend the money up front and not in warehousing people or otherwise paying to deal with the symptoms of the fallout from not spending the money upfront.   One can easily examine the cost in the United States of Health Care, prisons, policing,  and attempts to “catch” those who are misusing meager government funds and those spending billions on projects which keep wealthy political lobbyists happy for a moment.
 
Written July 7, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
coachpickett.org
 
 
 
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Sunday Musings - July 3, 2022

7/3/2022

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Sunday Musings – July 3, 2022
Independence Day
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The preamble to the United States Declaration of Independence.
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
 
Even the most uneducated of citizens of these United States know that  all men in this document excluded and may still or again exclude:
 
 
o   Slaves
 
o   Females
 
o   Non landowners
 
o   Nonwhites
 
o   Felons  with some notable exceptions. (In two states and the District of Columbia felons never lose their right to vote even while incarcerated. In  21 states felons get the right to vote back when released.  In 16 states felons may after satisfying certain  requirements get their rights back. In 11 states only the state legislators can individually restore the right to vote to felons.)
 
o   in certain cases, the mentally ill.
 
o   In some states those with restricted access to identification, ability to get to polling stations, and those deliberately restricted from  access to voting via redistricting.
 
o   Those below a certain age.
 
o   Pregnant woman who are again imprisoned by their inability to not-allow a fetus to become a person even if the pregnancy is a result of rape by a stranger or an abusive partner.
 
o   Those  - all of us - who need to be protected from the negative effects of climate change.
 
o   Increasingly once again those who identify as transgender or as non-binary.
 
o   Those who identify as gay, lesbian and bisexual.  We no longer in this  country send such people to prison but there are those who continue to want to reinstate laws which outlaw sexual/romantic behavior between same sex individuals.
 
o   Previously anyone who marries someone other than a someone identified as the same race.  Some would reinstitute these laws.
 
o   Those who want to be inclusive when teaching history, mental health as it relates to sexual orientations and certain other subjects.
 
o   Physicians who want to consistently honor their Hippocratic oath.
 
All men did include and may now include:
 
o   Slave owners
 
o   white male landowners
 
o   Those ‘creative’ folks who can use laws and well-paid attorneys in various states to “creatively” evade responsibility for not honoring business contracts.
 
o   Those who take advantage of situations to economically exclude others from housings, cultural events or other necessities,
 
o   Those who take advantage of desperation of others to gouge them financially.
 
o   often private health insurers who decide who is included or excluded by condition and financial status.
 
o   pharmaceutical companies who blame outrageous prices on research or other factors when it is patently a lie.
 
o   Companies who pay their senior staff millions of dollars while opposing fair wages for employees and often restrict access to products needed to operate a small business,
 
I am sure many readers can add to this list.  The point is that despite past progress we have continued to exclude many in their United States from “all men” and now a majority in the Supreme Court, many religious leaders and a host of politicians are determined to, once again, add to those who are excluded.
 
This Independence Day we must get honest about who is included and who is excluded from our declaration of independence. 
 
Ever present in my mind are the words of Martian Niemoeller `
arrested by the Gestapo and sent to Dachau concentration camp in 1938 - freed by Allies seven years later.  He said:
 
“In Germany, the Nazis first came for the Communists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn’t  a communist.  Then they came for the Jew, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew.  Then they came for the trade  unionists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist.  Then they came for the Catholics, but I didn't speak up because I was a Protestant.  Then they came for me, and by that time there was no one left to speak up for me."
 
When we are invited to celebrate Independence Day in these United States this July 4th let us recommit to making “all men” in the Declaration of Independence be truly inclusive of all men, women, and children in these United States.  Let us imprint the final  words of Emma Lazarus’ sonnet “The New Colossus” on our hearts and in all public places in every village, town, and state:
 
“Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me,”
 
Written July 3, 2022
Jimmy F Pickett
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