The math of healing
I have often suggested that those who think they do not like math try thinking of math as a language for exploring and thinking about relationships. If one can make that transition from getting overwhelmed with mathematical formulas to thinking of it as another language, then one may even learn to think of math as a friend. After all, if healing is about relationships and math is the language of relationships then healing is the simple process of changing the mathematical formula. For example:
If one continues to reinforce the messages/lies of the anxiety it grows in power and self-diminishes in power. If, however, we reinforce the messages of the self it grows in power.
Self is that innately strong, wise, compassionate part of ourselves which could easily tell someone else that the anxiety is lying to them. Self would do that with clarity and compassion.
Anxiety, depression and other voices which we adopt or internalize in various circumstances and at times in our lives, all lie to us. Their voices are similar to that of the abusive spouse, partner, parent or any other abusive person. The abusive person tells one that:
Healing from anxiety, depression or other negative and untruthful voices is a simple (not easy or comfortable) process of telling oneself the truth on a consistent basis until the messages of the wise woman or man are stronger than the internal voice which lies. When one listens to the truth one begin to practice leaving one’s comfort zone and finding that one can expand one’s world and even enjoy oneself.
Some people may need a mild mediation to take the edge off the depression or anxiety. An anti-depression which can also target the anxiety is usually the best option. Those medications are not addictive. There may be some who need no medication at all. (I never recommend beszodiazepines which are very addictive.)
Exercise, healthy diets, positive people, a spiritual program and some daily system for identifying and correcting the lies is an important part of the healing process. Being intentional about taking charge and reclaiming one’s life is also very important. Often a life coach or a psychotherapist can be helpful in designing and guiding one through the initial stages of the healing process.
I also advice using the yoga principle when dealing with the discomfort of changing/healing. That principle, as I understand it, is to challenge oneself by moving just a little past the comfort zone. When one becomes more comfortable in that new space then one continues to move to the next uncomfortable space. Many only go so far and reach a point where they are quite uncomfortable. Instead of breaking down the new goals into tiny, manageable steps, they try to take a giant step. They then have acute discomfort, give up and go back to the illusion of their safe space which, in fact, is a prison. In that prison one is isolated and the negative voice will again take charge of one’s existence. Again, the equation changes so that the negative messages are more numerous than the positive ones.
Only the individual person can, with the support of healthy, loving people, possibly a life coach/therapist and possibly for those also dealing with addiction a program such as the 12-step recovery program, make the decision to heal. Although the formula for healing is simple the history of agreeing with the negative lies is very strong. Thus, one must be persistent until the self is dominant most of the time.
Healing (not cure) is possible and very doable!
Written on June 6, 2017
I have often suggested that those who think they do not like math try thinking of math as a language for exploring and thinking about relationships. If one can make that transition from getting overwhelmed with mathematical formulas to thinking of it as another language, then one may even learn to think of math as a friend. After all, if healing is about relationships and math is the language of relationships then healing is the simple process of changing the mathematical formula. For example:
- Presenting issue: anxiety is running one’s life. Anxiety is 18 and self 1 3 then obviously, anxiety is always going to dominate self.
- Healing formula: You want self to dominate anxiety. The formula now become self 18 and anxiety is 13
If one continues to reinforce the messages/lies of the anxiety it grows in power and self-diminishes in power. If, however, we reinforce the messages of the self it grows in power.
Self is that innately strong, wise, compassionate part of ourselves which could easily tell someone else that the anxiety is lying to them. Self would do that with clarity and compassion.
Anxiety, depression and other voices which we adopt or internalize in various circumstances and at times in our lives, all lie to us. Their voices are similar to that of the abusive spouse, partner, parent or any other abusive person. The abusive person tells one that:
- You are weak.
- Without me you are powerless.
- You are dumb. You need me.
- Other people in your life just use you. You do not need anyone but me.
- You could not make it on your own.
- No one else would want you.
Healing from anxiety, depression or other negative and untruthful voices is a simple (not easy or comfortable) process of telling oneself the truth on a consistent basis until the messages of the wise woman or man are stronger than the internal voice which lies. When one listens to the truth one begin to practice leaving one’s comfort zone and finding that one can expand one’s world and even enjoy oneself.
Some people may need a mild mediation to take the edge off the depression or anxiety. An anti-depression which can also target the anxiety is usually the best option. Those medications are not addictive. There may be some who need no medication at all. (I never recommend beszodiazepines which are very addictive.)
Exercise, healthy diets, positive people, a spiritual program and some daily system for identifying and correcting the lies is an important part of the healing process. Being intentional about taking charge and reclaiming one’s life is also very important. Often a life coach or a psychotherapist can be helpful in designing and guiding one through the initial stages of the healing process.
I also advice using the yoga principle when dealing with the discomfort of changing/healing. That principle, as I understand it, is to challenge oneself by moving just a little past the comfort zone. When one becomes more comfortable in that new space then one continues to move to the next uncomfortable space. Many only go so far and reach a point where they are quite uncomfortable. Instead of breaking down the new goals into tiny, manageable steps, they try to take a giant step. They then have acute discomfort, give up and go back to the illusion of their safe space which, in fact, is a prison. In that prison one is isolated and the negative voice will again take charge of one’s existence. Again, the equation changes so that the negative messages are more numerous than the positive ones.
Only the individual person can, with the support of healthy, loving people, possibly a life coach/therapist and possibly for those also dealing with addiction a program such as the 12-step recovery program, make the decision to heal. Although the formula for healing is simple the history of agreeing with the negative lies is very strong. Thus, one must be persistent until the self is dominant most of the time.
Healing (not cure) is possible and very doable!
Written on June 6, 2017
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