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Primum non nocere

5/8/2018

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​Primum non nocere – First, to do no harm
Non-maleficence
 
This Latin phrase is often mistakenly thought to be part of the original Hippocratic Oath and is often cited as such.  In modern terms, the phase non-maleficence may be more familiar.
 
Most of us who are health care providers, enter the field because we hope that we can help others heal.  We want to heal not harm.  We do not enter the field in hopes of becoming wealthy or wining a prestigious award.
 
In an attempt to minimize harm in the health care field as well as other service fields such a law, professional organization have been formed and are the legally recognized entity for licensing as well as formulating rules, tests and ethical guidelines for holding health care providers accountable.  Some professional organizations may attempt to error on the side of caution by severely restricting the relationship between client/patient and health care professional.  Others may be more flexible. Many of us have, by virtue of being licensed or credentialed, agreed to more than one set of ethical guidelines which may, at times, conflict. The generally accepted advice is to follow the most restrictive guidelines.
 
Health care professional, if not careful, may use the guidelines to restrict the relationship between them and/or their staff and the patient/client.  They can also use those guideline and laws such as the Hipaa to limit their contact with family members of the client/patient.  Frequently this does not serve the needs of the client/patient and, in fact, may do harm.
 
I think of myself as a system therapist/counselor or coach.  I am acutely aware that all of us function in a multitude of systems – families, work, community organizations and an overall community.  All of our active and passive behavior affects many others - directly or indirectly. 
 
In order to effectively treat an individual, one must consider the following:
 
  • Does the patient/client believe it is safe to share very private information.
  • Is the client/patient living in a safe home?  Are they being abused in any way?
  • Is the client/patient likely to cause physical harm to another person(s)?  Is the duty to warm applicable?
  • Is there reason to believe that a person is sexually abusing or otherwise harm a child?
  • Is the patient/client’s ability to provide accurate and needed information to the clinician?  Is the patient/client ability impaired by mental illness, dementia, substance abuse/addiction or another illness affecting cognitive functioning?
  • Does racism, sexism, homophobia, cultural factors or other lifetimes traumas affect the patient/client’s ability to share information with the clinician?
  • Is the patient/client unable to provide a safe home for a minor child and is there anyway the clinician can help to make that possible?
  • Are recommendations for treatment consistent with the financial ability of the patient/client and his/her family?
 
The answer to the above question will help determine when other family members need to be consulted and/or brought into the appointment with the patient/client.
 
The question is not what the ethical guidelines say or do not say. The question is not what the Hipaa law states.  The question is what does one need to do to minimize the possibility of causing harm.
 
If a clinician does decide that primum non nocere dictates that one violate the letter of the ethical guidelines of one’s profession or a Hipaa law then one needs to clearly document the reason one was required by primum non nocere to do so.  It is that simple.  One may risk one’s license, but not one’s commitment to primum non nocere.
 
Written May 7, 2018
 
 
 
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Racing Mind

5/7/2018

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​Racing mind
 
Someone texted me to share that their racing mind was preventing rest or a good night’s sleep.  Most of us have had nights or even days when our mind seems unable to be quiet.  I am reminded of my garage door malfunctioning recently.  It just kept going up and down without me having any control over it.  Sometimes our minds are like that and it is as if one suddenly has acute internal ADD – Attention Deficit Disorder.  It is as if our mind has been taken over by a malfunctioning, out of control motor.  Not surprising, the more we attempt to quiet it, the more it seems to race.
 
Many stressors and conditions may cause our mind to race:
 
  • Not getting enough rest.
  • Concern about a person or a situation over when we have no control.
  • Mental illnesses. 
  • Grief over loss of a loved one or over the loss of something else which is important to us.
  • Attempting to change habits including deciding to stop the abuse of alcohol or other drugs can also result in a racing mind.
 
Of course, us humans like the illusion that we have some control over people, places or situations.   No matter who we are or how spiritually healthy we are all of us, sooner or later, have to face the fact that we have no control over the fact that people die, the behavior of others is unpredictable, machines break, earthquakes, floods and tornadoes happen, and we get reminders that the balance of all of the universe is very delicate.   Some of us may be better equipped or prepared than others to deal with life on life terms.  Those who live in areas where violence or natural disasters are common may learn that this is normal.  They may even learn that loss of loved ones is normal.   Even then, if and when there is time and space to do more than just survive, one might find oneself obsessively questioning one’s past decisions or actions.
 
Some individuals may have or develop an obsessive-compulsive disorder.   Perhaps, at times, a part of one’s mind decides that if one counts a certain way or engages in some other ritual one will be safer in some respect. 
One may tell oneself to stop or attempt to focus on something else.  Yet, the more one attempts to stop the more one’s mind races or the more the obsessive-compulsive behavior takes over.
 
For some, a non-addictive medication my help quiet the mind and allow one to rest, eat and otherwise take care of oneself.
 
When possible, one must begin to practice not feeding the obsessive thoughts or racing mind.   Anytime one attempts the stop the racing mind or obsessive thoughts one is feeding them.  Feeding them reinforces the habit thus making it stronger.  The goal is to “just notice” the racing mind or the obsessive thoughts.  One does not want to label the thoughts as good or bad, right or wrong.   One does not want to get angry at it or proceed with an obsessive ritual.   If one says anything at all one might say to oneself, “Isn’t that interesting.”   
 
Just noticing something, especially something which is uncomfortable and/or irrational, does not feel “natural” for most of all.  It feels as if we should be doing something more proactive.  Yet, the most proactive thing most of us can do is to “just notice” without any other comment.  I also recommend that one manually relax by focusing on one’s breathing, (deep breaths from the diaphragm), lowering one’s  shoulders, and shaking out the tension in one’s arms and legs.  When doing these things, one is letting one’s body know that despite the message to the contrary, it is safe to relax.  One may then begin to experience normal grief or other emotions one could not experience when the racing or obsessive mind was in charge.
 
May 7, 2018
 
 
 
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Sunday Musings - May 6, 2018

5/6/2018

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​Sunday Musings – May 6, 2018
 
It is a rainy Sunday here in Wheeling, WV.  I am feeling filled up emotionally and spiritually after being thoroughly spoiled on my birthday yesterday.  All week I have been acutely aware of the fact that I have more blessings than many others.   It is not only that I have a safe, pleasant home, a safe car, plenty of food and such middle-class luxuries as my very own washer and dryer and other material possessions which make my life comfortable,  I am surrounded with loving people. In fact, yesterday I was feeling as if I have more than my share of love.  I know that there are many who are not able to experience love or who illnesses has cut them off from others and even from themselves.  I am also particularly mindful of the homeless here in this geographical area and all the refugees fleeing violence, some of who are waiting to see if the officials of this country – those who represent us – will allow them to enter this country.  I cannot imagine what it must be like for them and their children.  There are millions of such people in many parts of the world.
 
Earlier I was reading the edition of Brain Pickings by Maria Popova which appeared in my email box today.   If the reader of this blog gets as many newsletters as I do, it is often difficult to know when ones to read. One cannot read all which arrive via email and the other mail systems.  There are also the many books which challenge one as well as documentaries and other films which are a “must see” if one wants more than sound bites on a particular subject.   Yet, of all those I receive, in addition to the weekly blog by my friend Dr. Becky Johnen, I pay particular attention to the edition of Brain Pickings.  In today’s edition, she invites a host of people such as Baldwin, Camus, Emerson and others to remind us that creativity is power and powerful; that merely being negative and critical is not helpful.  Her invited guests challenge one to think of the role of the artist in society.
 
I would maintain that we are all artists whether our creation is a moment of love which arrives in the form of a painting, a sculpture, words, a meal or a moment of loving presence.  Perhaps it is more accurate to say that we are all potential artists who have the opportunity to challenge ourselves to offer a positive alternative.
 
I am always confused by those who proclaim that they are not political.  I suppose that this is partly because of my age and having lived through the time in the 60ies and 70ies when many feminists were reminding us that the personal is political.  Although Carol Hanisch wrote an essay by the title she claimed not to be the person who first used that phrase.   Currently the Me Too moment, the Black Lives Matter movement and all those who proclaim that we have the power to create the society which we deserve reminds us that there is nothing magical about political or the body politic.  We can certainly choose to allow the body politic to be run by a select group of people or we can claim the power to create a more just and loving society.   Many local communities are determined to create a more respectful and healthy relationship with the environment; to explore such alternatives as restorative justice; to suggest ways we can take collective responsibility for innovative health care alternatives and much more.     At the local level, we can elect those to city councils and school boards who will create public education which serve a very diverse community.  We can create time and places to listen to and take care of each other.  
 
This week I will challenge myself to be positive and creative. I will gently redirect myself if I get sucked into being negative instead of working for positive alternatives.  This week I will be mindful of the luxuries which allow me the time and energy to be mindful.
 
Written May 6, 2018
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Unable or unwilling

5/5/2018

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​Unable versus unwilling
 
A friend of mine turned a certain way and suddenly she was unable to move without assistance.  Fortunately, with time, daily trips to the chiropractor and lots of practical help from her husband she is beginning to return to some independence. If she does too much or moves a certain way she could aggravate the original injury and become worse.  On the other hand, had she just decided she was a permanent invalid and stayed in bed, the condition could have gotten worse.  Fortunately, she is wise regarding her body, has a loving, supportive husband and has access to health care. She is also a very spiritual woman.
 
Another person I know lives with the disease of addiction.   He has recently relapsed and ended up homeless. The transition house where he was living cannot allow him to live there if he is using because of the effect on others living in the house.   The community in which he lives is not large enough to support a range of transition homes including one where those still in active addiction can live.   I do know of communities which have such homes.  This person has been in several residential treatment centers. For whatever reason, he has been unable to make active use of the recovery tools which were offered to him. He is now asking to return to a treatment program where he can be in a safe place and practice using the tools of recovery.      The staff of the program now have to consider:
 
  • There are a limited number of treatment slots open.  Should this man be one of those who fills one of those slots.
  • Addiction is a chronic illness as is diabetes and many other illnesses.   One does not want to punish someone for the chronic nature of an illness.
  • Attending multiple treatment centers can be a way to avoid doing the hard work of recovery – an attempt to find a softer easier way.
  • Addiction affects how the brain works or does not work!  One does not punish someone whose unhealthy brain cannot make healthy choices.  Each brain heals at a different pace.
  • If someone does not get what they need to stay in recovery a great many people suffer – family, friends, other addicts, community at large.
  • Some people can seem highly functional and yet not be able to use the part of their brain responsible for healthy recovery/healing decisions
  • Personalities do make a difference.  Some people are more likable -whatever that means.  It is easy to unintentionally allow one’s own biases to affect one’s professional decisions.
 
Fortunately, the staff of this program to which he wants to return are used to working as a team and embrace the concept of the “we” which is one of the rocks upon which the 12 step programs are based.    Thus, the staff will share the responsibility for the decision.   Still, all they can do is to make an educated guess regarding what is best for this client and for the treatment program as a whole.  The educated guess largely concerns whether this person is unable or unwilling to do the work of recovery outside of a residential or outpatient treatment program. 
 
I wish that I could say that any of us can use a formula to answer the question of whether someone is unable or unwilling.    I cannot.   I know that, when possible, I assume unable rather than unwilling.  I also know, however, that each of us has to make a clear, consistent commitment when we want to change any behavior.  The question is whether one’s brain is well enough to be able to do that – whether one is unable or unwilling to do the work of recovery.
 
Written May 5, 2018
 
 
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Public Criticism

5/4/2018

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​Public criticism
 
As a child, I did not like being given critical feedback, but sometimes if given with the intention of being helpful and given in private it was very helpful.  As an adult, I appreciate it when friends and colleagues give me critical feedback.   In fact, I often ask others to edit what I am writing or to give me suggestion about how I can be more effective in my job.   I have no problem admitting that most 4 year olds are more technically savvy that I am.  I know, at best, I make educated guesses most of the time about work or other issues.
 
On the other hand, I have never seen the value of public criticism; the purpose of which is to simply point out the faults or wayward thinking of another.
 
I have been guilty of doing just that in the past.  For example, the intention might have been to end the war in Vietnam or to get others to end investments in corporations or governments which were oppressing people.  Yet, the approach I and others took was often “us” talking about “them”.   Humility, kindness, and respect were not considered.  After all, we were “right” and “good” and they were “wrong” and “bad/immoral”.
 
As a counselor who also facilitates group therapy sessions with those recovering from addiction and other diseases, clients often talk about very personal issues with each other. The goal is healing. It is never to be critical.   All participants need to be very careful that any suggestions or feedback is given in the spirit of love and teaching.     Sadly, I have been in therapy groups when the goal seemed to be merely critical.  This can be very humiliating for the client and the other group members.
 
Whether the disagreement is with a political candidate, a coworker, someone one supervises, a child or some other family members, it seems to be that it is important to consider the following:
 
  • If not a life and death emergency wait to discuss critical feedback in private.
  • If humility is lacking – if one cannot imagine oneself doing something which is equally unkind, unjust, or thoughtless - than one should keep one’s criticism/feedback to oneself.
  • One’s goal needs to be to be part of the solution and not to create further strife or hard feelings which will make future problem solving more difficult.
 
I am not suggesting that I find it easy to refrain from being critical in a self-righteous manner.  I am often tempted to say something which make it seems as if I really believe I am morally superior to another person. It is easy for me to want to be that person or to appear to be that person who is more moral than others.   There are political candidates who I experience as critical, cruel, racist, sexist, homophobic, and unjust.  Yet, I know that being critical of them is not going to set up conditions for a dialogue in which we both listen to and learn from each other. I know that saying something mean spirited will work just like a drug which gets one high. It will feel good for a moment but long term feels terrible and wil not improve the situation for anyone.
 
None of us humans like to be criticized.  Some of us may, in fact, be less sensitive and/or more able to see ourselves in the behavior of the other, but all of us will function better if we are treated with kindness and respect.  If we need to give constructive criticism we need to do it in private – not in front of others, on social media, in newspapers or other public settings/medium.
 
Written May 4, 2018
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Beauty is not optional

5/3/2018

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​Beauty is not optional
 
The May assignment of the Writing Circle in Safely Harbor is to write about one’s relationship with flowers.  
 
Recently, my sister Pat sent me a photo of an Iris, the bulb of which comes from our Grandma Fannie’s yard.  Grandma Fannie had a large yard in which one would find many plants blooming all summer long.   This time of year, the last of the Iris’s would be blooming. She had many colors and varieties.  All of them, however, were beautiful, proud, seemingly delicate, with thin petals which were, I am sure, the inspiration for choreographers such as Balanchine as well as the costume designers for his dancers.  Balanchine’s creations make delicious use of hands which can stir an expectant memory with a slight movement.    In that movement, one will see the fuzzy edges which lead to …
 
I have lived in third floor walkups flats which shared a bathroom with a Japanese woman who would come into my apartment, bow and close the door.  This was Washington D.C. where one dare not miss the possibility of a slight zephyr by closing doors connecting the two sides of the building.  I have lived in a large Victorian house and I have lived in small studio apartments.  No matter where I lived,  if one visited,  one would always find a least a single flower set in a vase salvaged from some yard sale.  Sometime one would find a bouquet which threatened to evict it co-tenant – me.    There were times when I walked many extra blocks to save the nickel bus transfer fee, but I could still wring the budget for that few cents to buy a single fresh flower.
 
Today I have flowering plants in my dining area and the office. There is also a carnation next to my laptop.  These amazing creations of nature accompany the artwork of friends which fill the walls and sit on various tables. Some like the miniature Tlingit totem pole rest on the floor in the entry area.
 
When I traveled to Europe and later to Estonia just prior to the fall of the Soviet Union and found food and other necessities In short supply or non-existent everyone still had fresh flowers and art. In Estonia, sometimes the rich history of paintings and sculptures were not to be found in public spaces,  but one might see a sculpture made out of munition parts next to a bombed-out building.
 
Whether in the dyes which created the rich pattern weaved into clothes and rugs or the patterns fired into priceless pottery one finds beauty in the form of art, fresh flowers, and colorful garments. In the villages of Southeast Alaska, one finds fishhooks, totem poles (the only recorded history) and other survival items lovingly carved and painted.  
 
It seems that most of those traveling with us on this brief earthly journey have always known the intricate designs and colors which emerge from tree branches, bulbs, and seeds were not an accident.  Sometimes the flowers announce the impending arrival of food which will nourish parts of the body, but first, yes first, comes food for the soul.  If the body is not resting in the soul no amount of food for the physical body will be sufficient for life.  When the body is off just a bit then herbs, each with its own delicate flowers, arrive to return the body to itself. 
 
Beauty is not optional.
 
Words – 571
 
Jimmy F. Pickett       May 3, 2018
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Fairy  Dust - The Smile

5/2/2018

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​Fairy Dust – The Smile
 
I am one of those persons who says good morning to people no matter where I am.  Usually my first public outing in the morning is at the gym.   There are gyms where the rule seems to be that one should be seriously focused on getting fit. Greeting others, especially those not engaged in serious cross fit exercise, is verboten or, at the very least, frowned upon.   The gym I most often use in the morning has a large group of people who are not doing cross fit. Many people respond when I say good morning.   A few initiate a good morning  with a smile which obviously has traveled from the heart to the lips and the eyes.   It is as if one is being warmly embraced without ever physically touching although occasionally someone will put a hand on my shoulder or otherwise establish a brief, physical connection.
 
A morning smile genuinely sent from one heart to the next can infuse every part of one’s body with loving energy.   It does not matter whether one knows the other person or not.  Suddenly one is truly not alone and, in fact, feels connected as an integral part of the universe. 
 
Of course, there are times when someone is experiencing grief so fresh that they dare not connect lest they fall weeping into the arms of anyone within falling distance.   Others may be so involved with attempting to formulate a plan to deal with some tough personal or work-related situation that they miss any attempt to connect. Even then a smile sent from one’s heart will leave a layer of fairy dust in the very air that surrounds that person.
 
One smile sent out with love is all the proof that one needs for the six degrees of separation.  Fairy dust left by a smile travels from one person to the next to the next, and then to the next.
 
Fairy dust covers the giver as well as the recipients. It cannot be effectively ignored, discounted or contained, nor should it be.
 
Not everyone has much, if any, fairy dust to share.  Yet, I suspect that if each of us stops for a second to notice our head and shoulders we will notice a thin layer of fairy dust.   Once acknowledged, it multiplies and soon spreads to others. If it is a sunny day one will notice the bright, tiny particles engaged in childlike play.
 
Written May 2, 2018
 
 
 
 
 
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Saying no

5/1/2018

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​Saying no
 
Although it is only Tuesday, twice this week I have been asked to loan money to clients.  Both requests:
 
  • Were from people I genuinely care about.
  • Were legitimate in the sense that we all fall short at times of planning for emergencies.
  • Were directly related to the fact of early recovery when most do not have many funds to meet unexpected expenses.
 
At the same time both requests:
 
  • Violated ethical guidelines of both licensing and certification boards.
  • Involved money that clients may not have been able to repay.
  •  Would have strained but not broken my personal budget.
 
My experience tells me:
 
  • It is difficult for me to make loans without getting resentful if they are not repaid.
  • Could adversely affect the counseling relationships – clients could feel guilty for not repaying or the loan could have been received as entitlements which would have not fed their healing process.
  • Addiction is a chronic illness. Chances of both of these people relapsing and expecting more from me in the future is high.
  • One should never give a loan one cannot afford to give as a gift.
 
It seems as if my decision to say no in both cases was consistent with what I know about addiction, what I know about my own state of spiritual health, and what the respective licensing and credentialing boards state.  Yet, it felt wrong, wrong, wrong.  I had just written about what it might mean to be a shepherd.  Previously I have written about my belief that we must be willing to give and receive unconditional love.  Additionally, I have written about my belief that all of us can and have been, in some sense, the prodigal son/daughter.
 
I think that I made the best decision I could. At the same time, I am committed to ongoing examination of my motives for such decisions. I know:
 
  • I do not want to obey rules just because they are rules, but I want to respect my peers enough to try to understand the reason for guidelines or rules.
  • My attachment to money and my fear of being without money is very powerful and can be in conflict with my belief that I will always get what I need if I do the next right thing.
  •  I do not want to forget what it feels like to be broke and not able to take care of even basic necessities.
  • I often do dumb/stupid behavior and need a hand up.
  • I do not want to discount the ability of others to use difficult times to learn to avoid being victimized by addiction or other lies in the future.
  • I need to share my decision-making process with others I respect and whose opinion I value.  I know that spiritual and emotional growth is a we process.
 
I am glad that saying no to a request for help is never easy for me. If and when it becomes easy I will know that I am in trouble spiritually.
 
Written May 1, 2018
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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